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I need time

10/6/2013

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Emotionally I have had a tough string of days.  I have sat down to write in hope to help process.  When I write, I cry, and at other times I seem to stifle the tears.  There seems to be no "good" time to cry.  I am working so hard to carry on.  From the days following Koen's birth I made the decision to not have Hackett live under this dark cloud with me.  I don't want to look back and feel like I have lost time with Hackett.  I have already lost a lifetime with Koen,  My days now consist of being with Hackett or being in my classroom.  I put Hackett to bed and correct papers.  Rinse and repeat.  Kevin has been on shift now for over a month and the last two weekends has been working 12's, which is only adding to the chaos.  There seems to be little time to process, little time to feel, and little time to grieve lately.  I need that time.  I can't keep everything all wrapped up and pretty without that time.  Tears flow down my cheeks at random moments, and within seconds and I am wiping them away to answer one of Hackett's many questions in my normal mommy voice.  I am nearing my breaking point.  Juggling these balls in the air would be difficult under normal circumstances, but adding in the grief and the fear of the future is wearing me out.  I am thankful that I have stepped back and assessed all that is swirling around me, in hopes to carve out time.  The time I so desperately need.

Initially when I sat down to write today the only thoughts that surfaced were how much I ache and miss my Koen.  So often this week I had thoughts and visions of holding him.  Walking around, carrying him, singing to him, and kissing his sweet little head.  Then the realization that it is only a dream shatters my heart.  Even my arms are aching for him.
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Lori Belanger
10/6/2013 10:54:59 am

My heart aches for you, Jackie. You show me how strong you are everyday and I marvel at your strength. You are such an awesome Mommy...Hackett is such an amazing kid and I'm sure that Koen is up in Heaven telling everyone all about his Mommy. Someday, God will Bless you all with another little soul that will also be a totally amazing person because of you. Please know that you are always in my thoughts & prayers and that I still visit with Koen every morning! I feel like he is, and always will be, in my heart forever. <3

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    I am Jackie.
    I am a child of the one true King.
    I am a wife to my high school sweetheart, Kevin. 
    I am a mom to my three sons - Hackett, Koen (my little angel), and Tobin. 
    I am experiencing loss, heartache, and grief.  On May 27, 2013, at 26 weeks and 6 days I went into the hospital with contractions, only to learn that my Koen's sweet little heart had stopped beating.  
    Tobin was born July 8, 2014.
    I am on a journey . . .

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